What is a friend?

wrote this a long time back, i think it should be there in my blog, so posting it here :)

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What is a friend?

Is a person with whom you have your meals, go to movies, trips, and spend weekends with, your friend or the person who is there for you when you are alone, feeling down, need some emotional support is your friend.

Well, different people have different definitions for friends. For some people, friends are those who can help you kill your time; for some friends are those who will always crack jokes in front of you, a piece of entertainment may be; for some people friends change with their likings, comforts and preferences, for some people friends come with age; for some friends are those who are really close to their heart and the categories goes on and on.

I will just try to explain these different kind of relations according to my experiences with the different people I’ve met till now (I know the experiences will still go on :)). I am not saying that I am too experienced person or whatever I think is the ultimate truth. You people may have your own feelings, your own thinking about friend and friendship, but for me these are not just two simple words; former is among the most important persons in my life and latter the most important relationship.

So, there are few people for whom friends are nothing but just the mean to pass their time so that they don’t have to be alone, get bored or anything. And these people remember of their so called friends when they are alone and getting bored, for all other times they have better means to live their lives. Same is true for the people who just see friends as some entertainment piece, whenever they are bored they just simply have to switch that entertainment piece on and enjoy the show and in other times they don’t need that idiot box and will keep it switched off.

Well, I am not saying this is a bad thing, almost every one of us does the same, but personally I don’t feel that we can term this as a relationship of friends. Yes, friendship is a relationship, for me if I say that this person is my friend then it means that I am in a relation with him/her. It's not like that I can remember that person only when I am alone, getting bored or anything, rather I love to be with my friends always all the time.

And there is also a category of people who think they can not make friends after a certain age, 18+ not allowed, lol. These kind of people are also not wrong because for them also there are different relations that mean everything to them and they don’t want to extend their life beyond that. They think whatever relations they could have, have already been established in their school and university times.

And some people are like they get bored having relations with the same person, and try to look for new. Well this is a good thing to make new relationships but not on the sake of your previous relation. Such things look good in case of girl-friends/boy-friends but not for the friends. Well talking on this will mean slightly diverging from the topic so I will skip it.

There are some people for whom friends really mean someone important, who love to be with their friends always, who find it too difficult to let go off their friends and who really get emotionally attached with their friends. These kind of relations go very well if you are a bunch of boys or a mob of girls, but it really doesn't go well if both the sexes are involved as a girl and a boy can never be JUST best friends. Even if they get to be great friends, not only do the people around them start thinking that something's going around between the two but they themselves have some thoughts like these, damn I think he started liking me, isn't he getting too emotionally involved in me? Why does he care so much for me is he right?


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Well I still can go on and on with this, and these are just my views, that too only at this moment. You may have different thinking, you may dislike me for whatever I said, but that's what I feel and think at least at this moment, and that's the way I am, and I can't change it and if you don’t like all this, well I just don’t give a fuck.